How best to deal with work place bullying.

Earlier today I was asked via e-mail how best to deal with work place bullying. I have asked if I may use their e-mail and they are quite happy for me to do so.

 

In reply I asked the respondent what the problem was and what exactly what was happening.

 

They replied the following:-

 

The problem I have is with 2 managers within my company, One is a manager of the freezer food department and the other is the manager of the cosmetics department.

 

A few months ago, I went through a rather bad brake up with a woman I had been with for over 5 years, she decided she wanted someone else, this other person was another woman, me being a male I couldn't understand this and descended into a bout of deep depression and I was off work for about 5 weeks up on returning I was subjected to some nasty comments from both of these Managers who are both in fact women.

 

It started as some as they said "Light hearted fun" but I didn't see it that way and asked them to stop. Yet after many times asking them they carried on saying things like "What's it like to know she left you, to do some muff munching", and "what was the problem you couldn't satisfy her with your cock" and "what is it like to do a 5 knuckle shuffle every night".

 

I found these very offensive and now it has got to the point where I am afraid to speak out as they are both women and feel no one would believe me and I am now again on the sick with work related stress.

 

I replied the following:-

 

I know how you feel, I went through some physiological bullying in my old job, he was a former Police Officer and well respected, so I found it really hard to tell management or HR what was going on, in the end I ended up on the sick with stress and felt I had no other option but to e-mail the Company HR department and tell them what was going on.

 

They did nothing about it but, I was left with no option.

 

My advice to you is either speak to your Union representative, if they are no help, try speaking to your HR department or a Manager  you can trust, failing that, put everything down in an e-mail and send it to either your HR department or Your Store manager, explaining what is happening and the fact you now feel bullied and under undue stress, also mention you have spoken to a solicitor about and you don't want to take further action, if this problem can be sorted amicably.

 

Also does your company have an anti-bullying policy if they have ask them why they don't use it and also check if they have some sort of counselling service or a stress helpline. 

 

That's my advice to you.

 

Good Luck and let me know how you get on.

 

Regards

 

Mark

 

I found this e-mail rather disturbing to think a man could be put through this, but 2 women.