Thursday, 30 March 2017

Mental Health and it's effects.

Mental Health and it's effects
 
I myself suffer from mental health, anxiety, stress and depression and at times it can be very tough, the tiredness, the loneliness and the sense of  feeling a Burdon.
 
At this moment I am going through a particularly bad bout of depression, that has just crept up on me since Christmas, with the last few weeks being very bad so much so I have now had to start seeing a councillor again and I feel I have given in, which I know is not the case, all I have done is seek help.
 
The real big thing that I realised I needed time to myself and some time to get myself together was a week ago when while in college we were doing a task and I mentioned that I had a problem with my knees and another student piped up if it is not you knees, its your shoulder, if it is not your shoulder its you have got something else wrong with you, I told them to "FUCK OFF" and with that someone else then replied ooowww I got up and offered to take them outside and sort them out (Not ME), I decided to walk out of Class to get away from the situation.
 
I ended up going for a walk outside and have a good cry, a couple of the tutors came a found me to have a chat, I felt at my lowest ebb and felt I had let myself down, my fellow students down and my tutors down. After talking to my tutor, they explained that this was not my fault and that I had nothing to be ashamed about and that I needed some time off to get myself right.
 
I asked my tutor if I could address the group, they suggested I do it one on one, This I refused I wanted to say what I wanted to say in front of the whole group or not at all, you see one on ones are not my thing but I feel more comfortable speaking to a group, I went in front of the group apologised and explained as best I could what I was going through, they were very understanding and wished me well. Doing this and explaining the situation helped me no end and took a big weight off my shoulders and the relief was immense, I took the rest of the day off and had some time to myself.
 
At counselling I started to open up about some of the things that had been going on from before Christmas, up to recent events, having my benefits stopped, worrying about being made homeless and some of the mucking around that has been going on in Class, which has taken it's toll as you try to concentrate and the more you concentrate the hard you try and the more tired you get mentally and thus go more and more into the depression you are in.
 
The thing with depression is you put up a mask and hide it, try to deal with it in your own way and the more you do this the more and more tired you get, you don't sleep at night, you don't shave, very rarely eat until you reach breaking point and for some people their is no return from this.
 
I do know what it is like to have the thoughts in your head about taking your own life and it is frightening and I hope they never come into my head again but they will always be at the back of my head deep down.
 
Moving forward I have started to train again in the gym and this is helping me realise all the energy in a positive way, I have a practical assessment coming up in the next month and then I should be a qualified personal trainer.
 
I suffer with this illness each and every day, at times it is hard and yes their are times when I get really low.
 
What I will say to anyone who is suffering from depression or any other mental illness, speak to someone, open up and let people know what you are going through, the ones that matter will care, they will approach you with care and will help you, don't push them away and open up to them they are only their to help.
 
That's my story, so if you know anyone who is like me and needs the help they deserve and your understanding please help them.      


Wednesday, 19 October 2016

Improving your Job prospects doesn't pay

Well as the title says, improving your job prospects does not work or pay dividend, ask someone who know, like myself.
 
I am currently studying a level 3 Personal Trainer diploma course to improve my chances of getting into work within the fitness industry, as many of the jobs in this industry ask for a Level3 qualification/ equivalent or above or even start my own business, so I should be congratulated for doing this, well that is not exactly the point as I have been punished for it.
 
What do I mean by being punished, well as I am classed as in full time education I have had my Job Seekers Allowance stopped, well as you can see it is the governments way of punishing people for getting off their backside doing something to improve their chances of getting back into work, re-training as they say.
 
This is the governments way of manufacturing the unemployment figure, so under their rules I am quote "Technically in work" which is not the point as I am in College studying, thus meaning I am under their rules unable to work, lets put it this way I am in college 15 1/2 hours a week, so how can I not be able to work or even be classed as in full time education and this where they fall down with their rules, from what I can gather full time means anything over 20 hours per week, with the average working week being 40 hours or more, yet the DWP rules state that 16 hours is classed as full time.
 
So why is it that people who re-train and change their skills to try and get back into employment are punished or should that be discouraged from doing anything to help themselves, just sit at home do nothing, claim all the benefits they can and do nothing, yet the people who do something to change their prospects of work get new qualifications to do this get given no help.
 
This is the situation I now find myself in no money, threat of eviction and no Job Seekers Allowance, although you are still expected to look for work and give up you college course if you find a job.
 
What sort of incentive is it for someone to re-train if they are going to be punished for it, stopping you money, housing benefit and council tax benefit, yet some people do nothing to enhance their chances of employment sit on their backside and do nothing claim what they can.
 
I can apply for a Job Seekers Hardship Allowance, but only if I have asked family or friends to help me out, they want you to do what? Yes you read right they want you to ask family and friends to help out, yet I have paid into the system for well over 10 years and now I am being told I have to ask other people to help me out, yet it is the government who have put me in this position, they want you to work, want you to improve your chances of work and then stop your money because you do, double standards, instead of stopping you from enhancing your employment prospects, they should encourage you, by giving you an allowance to re-train or go back to college, well you are helping yourself and the government by improving your chances of employment, thus getting into employment and paying back into the system via national insurance contributions and income tax, so they would be getting their money back for helping you, it is simple economics, you speculate to accumulate, because your are either going back into employment or go self employed and employ other people.
 
This is something the government don't see, all they want to do is punish the simple man, who is doing everything to improve their chances of employment.
 
SO WHY PUNISH THE HARDWORKING PEOPLE WILLING TO CHANGE WHO HAVE CHOSEN TO IMPROVE THEIR CHANCES OF EMPLOYMENT. 

Thursday, 13 October 2016

The Benefits System and it's down falls

Well the benefit system, now what can I say about it, well it is something that is used and abused by the few and the many are pilloried for it.

I myself am currently on JSA not through choice mind, it is because I was bullied out of my last job some 3 years ago, and was left with no choice but to claim benefits, you see I am a proud man and felt ashamed to claim, but as was pointed out to me I have paid into the system so I am entailed to it so I claimed and got JSA and Housing Benefit, so that was some 3 years back.
 
So here we are today and tomorrow I will have to sign off as I am now classed as being in full time education as have enrolled in college to study to become a personal trainer and improve my chances of getting a job, well I had plans to start up my own business firstly as a Health, fitness and Wellbeing Coach and ultimately a Personal Trainer.
 
There is something called the New Enterprise Allowance, which I was hoping to go on, yet I am unable to.
 
Now if I was a drug addict, an Alcoholic or sick I would be able to claim benefits and still be able to go to college, there are many people that all they do is sign on go home and do nothing to improve their chances of a job or even look for a job, yet they are still able to get their benefits and keep any other allowances they get.
 
Let me point out I am not one of these people I want to work, in fact I am going to start up my own business with or without the help of the government, I am unable to get a business loan or a start up grant, I may even have to give up my home somewhere I have lived for over 18 years, yet their are these people who get everything and me well I will get nothing for doing something to improve my chances of a job .
 
Yet I am penalised for this and not given any help what so ever to do this, maybe I should use and abuse the system like many others do. 

Monday, 10 October 2016

Where the Governments New Enterprise Allowance falls Down.

The New Enterprise Allowance, the governments way of helping the unemployed starting up their own business, well that is what it is supposed to do, it is suppose to help bridge the gap between starting your business and the short fall you may have, it is £65 per week for 13 weeks and £33 per week for another 13 weeks and have a viable business pan, which I have and signed off.
 
You need to be claiming Job Seekers Allowance and some other benefit to qualify, well that's me I qualified for this New Enterprise Allowance to start up as A Health, Fitness and Wellbeing Coach while studying for my Level 3 Personal Training Certificate.
 
I am still on JSA at the moment, so therefore qualify for the New Enterprise Allowance, I am also studying at College 19 1/2 hours per week for my Level 3 PT, the Job Centre were asked to refer me for this allowance some 4 weeks ago, yet they won't because I am in education.
 
It wasn't the fact I would get the £65 and £33 over the 6 month period, but it would give me a chance to build up a client list with the help of a business advisor/mentor and this is the part that would help having that advice and mentoring there when I needed it, to help me with any business problems that may come up, it would also give me the chance to speak to someone with experience and know how of business.
 
This is an allowance to help people become their own boss, to work for themselves yet even though I am on JSA, because I am now in Full time education I do not qualify, but I will still have to sign off JSA and therefore have no money and will have to try and get a client list from scratch and with out the help I could get, lets not forget I would have to sign off JSA if I got this allowance any way.
 
It seems that all I am is another statistic to keep the unemployment figures down, a person who will have no other choice but to beg, borrow and may have to give up his home because of some person in the job centre who makes these choices, they are supposed to be there to help you not hinder you.
 
The thing is I won't give up on my dream and I will carry on immaterial of what this government want to throw at me, there are people who get benefits who well how can I put not deserve them, don't look for work, don't do things to improve their chances of work and use and abuse the system, I am not one of these and never have been, all I want is the help, I feel I deserve. 
 


Monday, 14 March 2016

The UK today

THE UK TODAY
 
So it is that time of year again, when Gideon Osborne, goes to the House of Commons and delivers his budget.
 
The UK national debt is growing at £5,170 per second, yes that is per second.
 
The average household in the UK has non-mortgage borrowing of Close to £10,000, I myself am over £18,000 in debt built up of Loans and Credit Cards that total over £11,000, plus repayments to DWP and store cards.
 
It will be interesting to see what Gideon will do Wednesday, but there is one thing for sure the poor are going to get poorer.
 
Mr Osborne has stated he has to make £4 Billion worth of savings, not satisfied helping his mate and I use that in the looses of terms Iain Duncan Smith to cut Sick and Disabled peoples benefits by £30 per week, only today I read about a young woman who was going to have her mobility car taken away from her, her only link to the outside world.
 
Mr Osborne has stated he is going to crack down on Tax avoidance a loophole that allows TV stars to be paid off the books, yet he is claiming TAX payers money for expenses.
 
He is going to make cuts to public sector Budgets and this will cause more problems to the country as a story that broke only last weekend when it came to light that David Cameron's own mother had lost her own voluntary job because of the cuts being made, not a good sign.
 
What I am finding with this government is that they will quite gladly allow the rich to keep more of their money by increasing the threshold they have to earn before they pay tax, but cut the benefits to the sick and needy within society, Britain is gradually becoming a third world country run by a dictatorship.
 
The country is falling apart at the seems, so here is a radical plan for you, instead of spending the Billions the country does on needless wars all over the world pump the money back into the country and the people that need it most and not one person would be left out, instead of the MP's getting a pay rise, they should look at helping the sick and needy, poverty in the UK is a growing problem.
 
Children are starving and food banks are opening all over the country, this should never be not in this day and age, you have the slime Ball Iain Duncan Smith cheering in the chamber when Gideon announces the living wage will increase yet he is the man sanctioning people through his department, telling the sick and needy are going to lose £30 per week and over 6,000 deaths because of the sanctions and reduction in the ESA, these are the people who this country should be helping, not punishing within society.
 
This is going back to 1930's Germany when the sick, disabled and venerable were persecuted and driven out of there homes.
 
Lets look at what is happening with the junior Doctors, people her the phrase Junior and think they are 20 something's, yet a majority are in their 30's and 40's and have studied for over 5 years just to get to where they are today and if they want to get to the next level they would have to study another 4 years, yet the government are going to impose a new unworkable contract on them, which will make working conditions worse and unsafe for the patient.
 
What I ask is why, did the people of the UK vote this Government in knowing what they were going to do, or was it better the devil you know, than the devil you don't, yet the country is going to nose dive into an even deeper state and more and more people will get poorer, yet only time will tell.
 


Monday, 7 March 2016

Going through Debt and the effects it has on you mental health.

Debt an it's effect on your mental health

 

This is a blog I have thought about doing for some time now, but have been to afraid to do it as I thought the response I would get is that it is your own fault you done wrong now you have to pay for it and as you read you will understand what I mean by this.
 
14 years ago I pleaded guilty of benefit fraud, stupid I know but it happened, I served 3 months in prison for this and as they say you do the crime, you do the time, and in my case this happened, you then have to pay the money back, not a problem and I was, in fact when I found employment I was paying it back at an amount I could afford (I'm not going to go into how much at this stage but I there was an agreement in place).
 
I worked for nearly 10 years for the same firm until the summer of 2013 when due to a mental illness and being bullied I was dismissed from my job and became unemployed, even though I was claiming Jobseeker Allowance, the agreement I had was still in place with no problem what so ever with it that was until May 2015 when the agreement I had was scrapped.
 
This is where my problems started and this government, well lets put it this way are screwing who ever they can the rob the poor to pay the rich so to speak.
 
From the time I lost my job up until May 2015 nearly 2 years I was receiving £73.10 per week, £292.40 per month, plus my housing benefit of £300 per month, by the time I had paid all my bills and other out going in was left with about £1.75 per day to live on. 
 
So to my shock and horror in April 2015 I received a letter from DWP stating they were going to be taking £29.60 per week from my JSA a sum total of £118.40 per month (I know some people reading this will say well serves you right you defrauded the government) well to them let me say this before I go any further, I had an agreement in place was paying the money back at a rate I could afford, never missed a payment and was always on time with the payments). This left me with about £2.10 to live on per week, I tell you this you try and live on £2.10 per week and tell me your opinions and how you cope with it.
 
So I went to the CAB and was advised to do a mandatory reconsideration stating financial hardship and is it possible to reduce the repayment rate, this I did, then I received a reply stating the following "Due to a ministerial announcement on 3rd November 2014 stated the department would no longer reduce deduction's rates of recovery of overpayment and Financial Hardship was not an adequate reason for reducing the deductions" I guess this Minister is Mr Iain Duncan-Smith the man who pays £30 for a breakfast and then says people can live on £3 per day (What a knob, Sorry but he is), This is the same Minister who is reducing some sick benefits by £30 per week really and this country put these idiots in charge of our country.
 
I was sent a speech that The then Minister for the Cabinet Office Francis Maude gave at a Dobs Conference on Debt, in it he stated the following:-
 
"There are people who genuinely cannot pay and need our support - and what they don't need if different arms of government chasing them, we need to be chasing the won't payers and not the can't payers who can pay a bit"
 
My question to this Tory Government is what happened to this idea, why was it not taken on board.
 
What I will point out at this moment is this "I HAVE NO RIGHT TO APPEAL THIS DECISION MADE" so this means that the government have got you over a barrel and you basically have no rights in this country, well that's what I thought so I made a complaint to the European Courts For Human Rights, article 22 of The Universal Declaration of Human Rights act 1948 states everyone has the right to affordable housing, medicine, education, child care and "ENOUGH MONEY TO LIVE ON", AND medical help if we are ill. My complaint was unsuccessful, so thus this means that this government can basically do what every the hell they like and get away with it.

The effect this is now having on my mental health is very profound and I have some days where I feel what the hell am I on this earth for as I have bills coming in and have no money to pay them and the pressure is getting more and more profound, so much so it has come to the point I don't sleep at night and have no energy, I go some days where I don't have anything to eat which is no good for you state of mind or your body, (THERE WILL BE MANY PEOPLE WHO ARE READING THIS AND SAY WELL YOU ONLY HAVE YOURSELF TO BLAME), to them I say this yes I realise what you are saying and understand where you are coming from, but and this is a big but I have done my time and now 14 years later I am still paying for it, is this right who knows but it there is one thing I am is a fighter and I don't give in.

To Mr Iain Duncan-Smith in his £1500 suits who cheers in Parliament take a good long hard look at yourself and tell us the people of the country the real figures of the people who have gone on and taken their own lives because of "YOUR" policies, that I have no doubt will send this country at some point in the future anarchy.

I will leave you with this.

"Failure isn't about falling down, failure is staying down"

POWER TO THE PEOPLE  


Monday, 6 July 2015

The DWP's new legislation on fraud repayments

                                The DWP's new legislation on fraud repayments
 
Some of you may not know the predicament that I am in at the moment, 13 years ago I was convicted of Benefit fraud, done my time and have been paying the money back ever since at a rate I am able to afford and have never missed a paymentor so I thought so?
 
On May 5th this year I received a letter and it stated that from 16th May 2015 I would be deducted £29.60 per week 40% of my Benefits, yes you are reading right per week, not per month, so I went to the CAB and sought help and advice over this matter and was told, sorry advised to ask for a mandatory reconsideration of this decision siting Financial Hardship as the reason, which I dually did and sent off afore mentioned form.
 
I then on 29th May received a reply from the Department for Work and Pensions and this is what they "As the Overpayment was due to Fraud and further to a ministerial statement on 3rd November 2014, Financial Hardship can not be taken into account for a Mandatory Reconsideration and The Decision has no right to appeal"
 
So Financial Hardship is not a reason for a Mandatory Reconsideration so what is the definition of Financial Hardship "a condition  or Conditions that is difficult to endure; suffering; deprivation; oppression". So I am left with a decision weather to eat or pay my bills, how can that be right.
 
Since all of this started I have been going through a bout of Depression brought on by the Worry of what decision I am going to make do I eat or Do pay my bills, this is something I have to do daily and some days I do not eat at all as I can't afford to, there we are now you have it "Financial Hardship" having to make a choice because you can't afford to eat.
 
It was also stated no right to appeal, really no right to appeal, so after taking a bit of advice from a family member, they stated look at The Human Rights act, this I did and guess what I found, well I found the following from the Universal Declaration of Human Right act 1948 and it is and act adopted by The UN and The European Union and as Britain are part of The EU at the moment shouldn't it apply to us, section 22 states this "Social Security. We all have the right to affordable housing, medicine, education, and childcare, enough money to live on and medical help if we are ill or old" 
 
So as you can see and I never knew this it is a fundamental human right to have enough money to live on, really so this current government are in breach of my human right by not giving me enough money to live on by taking £29.60 per Week, The state says the minimum you should get to live on is £73.10 per week, so you take the £29.60 per week off then I am left with £43.50 per week to pay my bills and feed myself, So now I have a reason to appeal against the decision they have made, they are in breach of my human right by not allowing me enough money to live on.
 
So this would also state that the new legislation and come to that the old legislation is fundamentally floored and thus illegal, but the Tory Government won't care that you are suffering Financial Hardship, just as long as they screw you for every penny they can get out of you.
 
Today I have filled in and sent off an SSCS1 with the very aim of appealing the decision the DWP or more importantly Mr Iain Duncan-Smith who lets be fare has never done a hard days work in his life telling them they are in breach of my fundamental human right of having enough money to live on.
 
I will also be looking into how I go about getting a judicial review on this legislation because it has surely not be looked through and the damaging effects it can have on a persons mental and physical health.
 
They say that poverty will go down under this government, but I am afraid to say it will go up and I am also afraid to say the suicide rate will, until someone makes this shithole of a Tory Government sit up and take note of what they are doing to the poor in this country. 
 

Wednesday, 5 November 2014

Should emplyee's whistleblow and expose companies who allow work place bullying

Well if you are asking me, as a person who has been bullied I would say yes, tell whoever will listen.

Write to the head office, speak to your local MP or someone close to you expose these firms.

That is exactly what I am going to do here and I am willing to face the consequences, should it happen.

IKEA WALES, I was bullied while in work by a fellow member who I respected and trusted, yet they still physiologically bullied me not speaking to me, ignoring me and well mucking my work up so I would get into trouble and I have found out in the last few months that this came from the top, yes you heard me senior management.

You see 3 years ago I had a nervous breakdown and went through it while working the night shift, with no one else there, I was saying I was doing certain tasks and signing to say I had done them, yet I was not.

I my own mind I was doing them and it was not until I had a look at some CCTV footage I realised, I was not doing them and it was frightening, to see myself doing this, if this was happening what else was happening, I do vaguely remember having a file note for not doing these checks and breaking down in tears in front of my manager and since I have been told that this was me crying out for help, yet none was forth coming.

Since this time, pressure was put on me to do this wrong, so to give the company a reason to get rid off me, they used my Mental Health Issues against me and I am sure there is a law against it, but it is hard to prove.

So the company eventually got what they wanted me to make a mistake, the pressure had so much, I was suffering with work related stress, because of the way I was being treated by my fellow co-worker and also my supervisor and another co-worker within my department and was told it was all my own fault by my supervisor and the HR Manager.

The people I trusted and respected I turned to yet they did nothing, they are not the one's out of a job now, but me.

They know the bullying happens and yet they just want to brush it under the carpet.

I urge any employee who is being bullied expose, the company for allowing it to happen and the co-worker who is doing it to you and always REMEBER YOU ARE NOT A COWARD FOR ALLOWING IT TO HAPPEN AND YOU ARE NOT A BULLY FOR EXPOSING THE BULLY.

I ask am I able to sue for the stress and mental health issues this has caused me  

Wednesday, 22 October 2014

NHS staff are unable to drink tea or coffee in Public areas.

Yes read right, NHS staff in 3 Leicester Hospitals have been told they can not drink tea/coffee or hot chocolate in public areas.
 
3 Hospitals in Leicester Royal Infirmary, Glenfeild General Hospital and Leicester General Hospital, This has come about as their has been alleged complaints that having a hot drink in front of patients gives the impressions staff and slacking off.
 
Staff were informed of this ban via e-mail.
 
A spokesperson said the sight of staff enjoying a cup of tea or coffee "Clearly this activity has given the wrong impression to the public that clinic staff are not as hard working as they might be".
 
Well I look at this as member of the public is what the hell is going on, stopping staff going for a cup of tea or coffee in their break time to a café, they could be meeting up with a relative or a friend for a chat.
 
This is management gone mad if you ask me, what will happen next that you wont be allowed to go to the toilet.
 
I wonder if any staff have looked into the fact that this is an invasion of privacy or a breach of their human rights.
 
This correctness gone mad.

One Voice, My Voice, One View, My View.

Stay Strong and Believe
 
 

Monday, 20 October 2014

IKEA the not so family freindly company to work for

IKEA the Swedish furniture store that prides itself on being the quote "Family Friendly Store to Work for" in my experience what a load of bullshit, Family Friendly my arse, they say they put family first yet, pressure their co-workers into working the hours that suit IKEA.
 
Yes that's right to suit IKEA, I should know I worked for them for nearly 10 years and all they are interested in is working their co-workers to the bone, some don't even get a pay rise, you see, they do it performance related, so if your not up to scratch you DON'T GET ONE.
 
I should know, I never had one for the last 3 years I was with IKEA, they don't give you a cost of living pay rise, they give you a performance related one, so in my case because of one thing and another I never got one, yet my household bills were going, up and up and up, so much so I had to take a loan out to pay them, putting myself in even more debt.
 
They also use scare tactics as well, like for in my instance I had been off on the sick with tendonitis in my Achilles for 7 weeks, had planned my weekends, as I knew which one's I had off, how wrong was I, I came back after this time off on the sick to find out that my weekends had been changed, no consultation.
 
When I queried it I was told "We saw an opportunity to change the weekends so we took it", we I asked why I had not been consulted I was told "We don't have to, if you don't like it you know what you can do", In other words I was told "Like it or lump it, I you don't like it find another job".
 
If they had just taken the time to at least phone me to say "we are changing your weekend, sorry for the inconvenience, but we need to do it" I probably would have been OK with the whole situation.
 
IKEA the company who makes you work a late shift and finish at 9.30pm and have you back in work for 6.30pm, yet you are supposed to have 11 hours between shifts, you complain and your told the same again "If you don't like it, you know what you can do".
 
IKEA in breach of the European time directive.
 
From my understanding and from reading my contract, they are supposed to hold a 30 day consultation period with you before doing any changes, they used the excuse they were just changing the rota, yet it was a total change of shift pattern.
 
I no of cases where this has happened to mothers, who all they want is to spend some time with their children, yet they have their shifts changed willy, inly, IKEA the company that is supposed to hold family values very high, they say we are all one big happy family, yet they think they can walk all over you.
 
This a company who say they have an anti-bullying policy and take bullying seriously, yet it is only if a manager does it, but not if it is a fellow co-worker.
 
IKEA standing for I KEEP EMPLOYEE AGERY, yes those Swedes.
 
Come on co-workers strand up for your right to be heard.
 
One Voice, My Voice, One View, My View.
 
Stay Strong and Believe.
 
 


Sunday, 19 October 2014

Work Place bulling and it's effects in the UK

Work place bullying is becoming a big issue within the UK and it is an issue that in my opinion needs to be sorted out and soon.
 
8 out of 10 workers in the UK have suffered work place bullying 1 in 4 are going through it now, it is an issue that can cause my problem for the economy and employers alike.
 
83% of UK employers do have an ant-bullying policy and 90% of them are in the public sector, yet this issue seems to be getting worse, I thought the firm I used to work for IKEA said they had an anti-bullying policy yet they don't really want to tackle the issue, they would rather sweep it under the carpet, than deal with it head on.
 
The cost of to the UK economy per year is £2 billion pounds and a total 19 million sick days, so as you can see it is a very big issue in the UK today.
 
The effects on the person can be very profound and last a very long time if not a life time, it can cause depression and anxiety.
 
You will be asked if your firm has be asked to see an Occupational Health Advisor, I was asked to when I was going through what I went through and to be honest all the are interested is making sure the firm is OK not yourself, when I saw one, I was told I was boarder line depressed and Boarder Line Anxiety, I stupidly enough agreed to have an investigation done in to me allegedly losing a set of store keys, this meant the company had me where they wanted me and thus agreeing to the investigation, I had to go through with the Disciplinary.

The OHA Report stated this "Mark is fit enough to do the investigation, as long as it is at a neutral venue, with breaks and accompanied by a colleague" at not time did this state I was fit enough for the disciplinary, On a sick note, from my doctor it stated not fit enough for meeting on Thursday, I also stated this to The HR manager, their reply I find this some what confusing as the OHA said your were fit enough to go through the procedure, ultimately leading to me losing my job.

Well that's a lie what he said was "fit enough for the investigation"

some of the effects that work place bullying can have on the employee going through it are, Anxiety, Stress, depression, work phobia, physical sickness ect.

It got to the point with me that I did not want to go to work when a co-worker I was working with by the name of Alan was working, he was the one bullying me, not physically or even name calling but psychologically bullying, not speaking to me, ignoring me, dropping me in it, changing things I had done to make me look bad this sort of stuff, the reason I was afraid to say anything was because he is an ex-police officer and well respected within the store.

Out of the 8 in 10 employee suffering this, 1 in 6 will at some point suffer mental health issues and 1 in 3 may at sometime feel like taking their own life, I know I did.

A few months ago, I posted on facebook what had happened to me, it was year to the day that I had lost my job, for me this was my way of letting my feelings out, I now wish I had not done it as it became open season for a group of Cricketer's from a rival club in my area to well, cyber Bullying me on facebook, by say things like what I was saying was not true  and I hadn't been bullied, this set me back in my recovery even more, this group saw what they were doing as banter, yet I never saw it that way.

Some people ask me how do you deal with work place bullying, well I would go to your HR department or your line manager, baring that go to Citizen Advice and ask for their help, I wish I had and maybe I would still have been in a job, if I had been stronger and not a Coward I have no doubt I would still be working for IKEA.

So I would say be strong, don't be a coward.

Stand up and be brave.

One Voice, My Voice, One View, My View

Stay Strong and Believe.

     
 
 

Saturday, 18 October 2014

A poem of a depressive

This is a poem I wrote over 3 years ago when I was at one of my lowest points.
 
 
A Lonely Broken Heart
 
 
As I sit here on the cliff top
on this cold April night
 the stars shining bright...
like dots in the sky
 
I hear a heart beat
a broken one it is 
Thinking what the
future will bring 
 
Thinking of love 
The love I once had
The love I pushed away
The love I want to have
 the love I may never have 
 
Is it time to leave this place behind
 I hear myself say
on this cliff top
this cold April night
But that would only 
 be leaving the people I love 
 
 My heart is broken
It brakes a bit more
each day we are apart
on this cliff top
this cold April night 
 
 My love grows stronger
as each day passes
on this cliff top
this cold April night
with the stars shinning bright
like dots in the sky 
 A Lonely broken heart 
 
            By Mark Rees 5th April 2011

Should shoppers boycott Tesco

Yes should shoppers boycott Tesco, who showed discrimination to a Blind woman at their Belsize Road store in London, where a Student at The London Central School of speech and drama who is Blind was aske to leave the store because she had her Guide Dog with her.
 
Maya Makri was shopping in this afore mentioned store when she was approaching  the checkout to pay, with her friend when the cashier shouted out "NO PETS ALLOWED"
 
 
Despite there being a high viz on the dog to show it is a guide dog Ms Makri was asked to leave the store even after other members of the public in the store backed her up, yet  she was still asked to leave the store.
 
A Tesco Spokesman said "This clearly should never have happened and we will contact Ms Makri directly to apologise. We do allow Guide dogs in stores  and have reminded our staff of that"
 
Well obviously on this occasion it did happen, and the dog was not allowed.
 
Guide Dogs for the blind are finding that People with guide dogs are finding these problems increasingly common in the UK today.
 
Is this discrimination by Tesco, well on this occasion by Tesco, in my opinion yes.
 
One voice, My Voice, One View, My View.
 
Stay strong and believe. 

Friday, 17 October 2014

A mans Journey looking for a job

It has been a hard going for me over the last 15 months since I lost me job at IKEA, this being no fault of my own, looking for a job.
 
It has all changed since I was last out of work in 2003, then you went to the job centre and looked on the board take the reference number down and go to the desk and they would give you the details, along with an application form and you did the rest.
 
Now you have to do everything on-line on Universal Job Match, if you don't you get sanctioned and lose some of your Job Seeker Allowance or part of it there of.
 
In the last 15 months I have applied for more than 100 jobs within my area, with so far only getting 10 telephone interviews and 3 one on one interviews and it is frustrating as I want to work and get a job, I was in my last job for over 9 years, the longest I have ever been in a job and thought I would be there for life, yet it was not to be.
 
Also I had an interview cancelled on Tuesday when I turned up for it.
 
I have made a conscious decision that from next week I am going to start to send out letters along with my CV to various firms asking for a job.
 
It is hard being unemployed and at first I was embarrassed to sign on at the job centre, but my father said this to me "Son there is no need to be embarrassed you have paid your taxes for the last 9 years plus", so don't be embarrassed.
 
I know that some people will look at me and say, he is unemployed, living off the state, well I have no doubt that something will come up and come my way, I will keep on trying and won't give up.
 
If there is any employers out there all I as is give me a go employ me and see what I can do.    

One Voice, My Voice, One View, My View.

Yes you read right one voice, my voice, one view, my view, I am feed up of being quiet about what I went to with my former firm IKEA, it seemed to me that there was a culture of bullying within the firm and I am not going to stay quiet about it.
 
Today a very good friend text me, saying I had upset them with some of the things I had said and it was all over one e-mail, it was not my aim to offend or upset them, I was just trying to get my point over about how I felt about the e-mail sent, bare in mind I was already suffering with work related stress and felt the e-mail was uncalled for, all the person had to do was ask why the task had not been done instead of sending the following e-mail:-
 
Mark

I am writing to inform you that you have not completed the damages as requested on 21/05/2013.

As a result of this, i must insist that you must take full responsibility of this and ensure that the damages are completed by the end of next week.
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I will not place you in the rota any longer, you must allocate time yourself!

Also, please can you ensure that you follow the guidelines and dates as written in the emails sent by me previously.

Cheers
Ange
 
 I was told that this e-mail was a bit of tongue and cheek banter, well you decide.

The reason this above task was not done was because we were short on staff, yet I was not asked why it was not done just sent this, as you can and maybe understand why this upset me, only 6 weeks after this e-mail I was dismissed from my job.
 
I know there will be many people who will read this and say who's the bully now, well it's not me I am just exposing what I went through and the bullying culture that I personally had to put up with where I worked.
 
One Voice, My Voice, One View, My View.
 


Thursday, 16 October 2014

a mans experiance of work place bullying

You my have seen I have been writing about Work Place Bullying, This is something I have suffered not once but twice when I worked for IKEA WALES, on both occasions I suffered some work related stress, but it was only the second occasion that this became a real issue for me after a set of keys were taken from my draw in the office.
 
After the afore mentioned incident I feel with deep depression that not only made me feel suicidal but made me fell worthless and I lost all confidence.
 
The Bullying started some 12 to 18 months before me actually going on the sick, it started with a fellow co-worker by the name of Alan, totally blanking me, not talking to me and basically ignoring me.
 
 
At first I just thought it was a faze and things would get back to normal after time, but it never a couple of other co-workers saw things weren't right, yet never done a thing.
 
Things got that bad that I eventually spoke to my Supervisor Johan who in reply to me question was "think what you have done, it's your own fault", this really upset me and made me feel as if he was part of what was going on.
 
There were many times around this time that I would come home from work and burst into tears and think it is time to end it all, I would get up in the morning to go to work and would be physically sick knowing I would have to work with Alan, so much so that one time I rang in sick and told them I had a problem with kidney stones.
 
Johan would pile the pressure on get me to do the jobs either he didn't want to do or that he wanted Alan to do, but instead gave them to me, one day I got pulled up on something that had not been done right, yet the sheet had been changed, it was from this day that I realised that my time with the firm was coming to an end, if someone was doing this to me, how far would they go to get rid of me.
 
So I was suffering for awhile with work related stress, I told work it was because I was having family problems with my son, it wasn't this it was the physiological bullying I was going through at the hands of Alan and latterly Johan.
 
I spoke to someone in HR and asked for some counselling thinking, which I started not long after this meeting, I was to scared to tell people that Alan was bullying me as he was a highly respected member of staff and the fact I felt that no one would believe me.
 
Stress/Depression is a nasty and unseen illness that's creeps up on you when you least expect it, there are no words that can really describe how you feel but I will try, You feel very low, you have no energy, you feel that you can't do anything right, you feel everyone is against you, unexpected bouts of cry, suicidal thoughts and low self-esteem.
 
I still have me days where I feel like this, I still have nightmares about what I went through and still think to myself was it all my fault, but his is how you feel when you have experienced any sort of bullying, you think why me and what have I done to deserve this.
 
To this day I still do not know what I did to Alan, he has never told me, nor has anyone else ever told me, I have been called a bully for exposing what I went through, apparently I am the one bullying Alan, I have also been told I am an attention seeking male for exposing what went on.
 
I ended up losing my Job because of these lost keys, I was dismissed while on the sick, yet there was no proof that I lost these keys, I will sware till the day I die that I put them in the draw, yet I am still confused as to how I can be dismissed/sacked and get 9 weeks pay in lieu of notice this still baffles me.
 
I did in the end speak out about what was happening to me, but it was to late, the decision had been made to dismiss me, It was never looked into and to this day I don't think it ever has.
 
As I said earlier I am still feeling the effects of this bullying and I am sure I will for the rest of my life and if by doing this particular blog I help just one person then I will have done what it is meant to do.
 
I wish I had spoken out earlier and maybe, just maybe I would still have a job.   

what is a nervous breakdown

I had one 3 years ago and went through one again last year, would not wish it on my worst enemy.

What is a Nervous Breakdown?
 
A nervous breakdown can be described as an acute emotional or psychological collapse. The term nervous breakdown is not a medical term, but rather a colloquial term used by the general
 public to refer to and characterize a wide range of mental illnesses.
                
It generally occurs when a person  is unable to function in social roles anymore, experiencing severe depression or feelings of being out of touch with reality. This often occurs after a long period of stress which has not been adequately dealt with.
               
This inability to function can occur in both work and personal arenas, resulting in difficulty in fulfilling obligations. It also causes the individual to develop physical, mental and emotional
symptoms. A person experiencing symptoms of a nervous breakdown may feel extreme tiredness, weakness, episodes of uncontrollable
crying, confusion, disorientation and feelings of worthlessness.
                
There may also be a loss of self-esteem and confidence, extreme weight loss or weight gain, disrupted sleep patterns and feelings of guilt and despair. In severe cases, an inability to
move, called catatonic posturing, may result. This is a serious
psychiatric condition and should not be taken lightly.
   
 Other Disorders Associated with a Nervous Breakdown
                   
 Diagnosing a Nervous Breakdown
   
Your doctor will perform a physical examination to rule out any other medical conditions, and also ask you what symptoms you are experiencing. A course of medication may be prescribed as well
as a referral to a psychologist or psychotherapist.
           
 Symptoms of a Nervous Breakdown & Early Warning Signs
                
There are physical, emotional and behavioral warning signs and symptoms of a nervous breakdown. They include:
          
Physical symptoms of a nervous breakdown
           
Sleep disruption - much longer periods of sleep or insomnia
                 
Diarrhea
Constipation
irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS)
Breathing problem          
Migraine headaches
Low libido
Memory loss
Disrupted menstrual cycle
Extreme exhaustion/fatigue
Feelings of persistent anxiety or panic attacks
Significant changes in appetite, such as eating too little or too much (comfort eating)
Visual/eye disturbances
Emotional symptoms
Anxiety
Depression
Agitation and restlessness
Indecision
Loss of confidence and selfesteem
Inability to stop crying
Feelings of guilt, poor judgment
Disinterest in social life and work or alienation from previously close friends and family
Hearing voices
Inability to pursue a normal life, normal activities or normal relationships
Increasing dependence on alcohol or drugs
Paranoid thoughts, such as the thought people are trying to harm you
Seeing people who are not there
Thoughts of dying or wish to die
Thoughts of grandeur or invincibility
Having flashbacks to a prior traumatic event 
Hearing voices
Behavioural symptoms
Mood swings
Strange behavior such as odd body movements or undressing in public
    
              
In more extreme cases, psychosis can occur where the person will experience complete loss of contact with reality. The symptoms may include hallucinations or visions, feelings of
victimization or persecution, strange speech patterns and behaviors as
well as extreme guilt or grandiosity.


What Causes a Nervous Breakdown?
             
There is always a trigger or catalyst that sparks a nervous breakdown. Breakdowns usually stem from a change in a major life event such as a broken relationship, death of a loved one, a demanding
job or financial difficulties.
Factors that may contribute to a breakdown include:
Stress
Depression
Alcohol and drug abuse, particularly cocaine
Genetics (family history)
Coexisting medical conditions, such as vitamin deficiencies, thyroid disorders, movement disorders, skin and limb problems, etc.
           
Anxiety surrounding major life changes or disorders, such as pregnancy/after birth/labor, menopause, etc.
           
Schizophrenia
Extreme guilt or emotional problems
   
Help for Nervous Breakdowns
         
There are many treatment methods and approaches for dealing with nervous breakdowns. Choosing the right one depends on the diagnosis of the individual case, as there is no standard cure. There are ways to prevent a nervous breakdown, conventional treatments, natural remedies, nutritional supplements and many other therapies to choose from.

What is PTSD

In recent years, mental health professionals have adopted the term post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) to describe a range of psychological symptoms people may experience following a traumatic event, which is outside the normal human experience. The World Health Organisation has defined it as: ‘A delayed or protracted response to a stressful event or situation (either short or long-lasting) of an exceptionally threatening or long-lasting nature, which is likely to cause pervasive distress in almost anyone.’
‘The depth of my sorrow was no surprise to me, but I was totally unprepared for the other reactions – the shakes, nightmares, panic attacks, memory and concentration problems, and the unrelenting exhaustion.’Bomb attack survivor
Just hearing news of shattering events, such as the September 11 destruction of New York’s World Trade Centre, incidents during the Gulf Wars, the Potter’s Bar train crash and the Hillsborough football stadium disaster, can have a lasting impact on individuals. Anybody actually present during a disaster of this nature is likely to become extremely distressed. Every day, people are involved in, or witness, events such as road accidents, muggings, and sexual or physical assaults that cause them deep emotional injury. There is no doubt that the reactions that may follow can seriously hamper and
interfere with their lives.
Some survivors have objected to the use of the term disorder, because they see such reactions as an entirely normal and understandable response to abnormal events. But the label recognises that events and social conditions that are beyond our control, and which may fill us with fear or horror, can cause extremely disturbing psychological symptoms.
What are the symptoms?
‘Tom had almost denied what happened, didn’t want to talk about it, didn’t want to read any of the articles. Then, one day, a friend mentioned to him that she was worried about her cat, because she had left it that morning trapped up a tree, and it was as though that pushed a button. He broke down and shed lots of tears.’
One of my problems resulted from experiencing upsetting flashbacks: people badly injured; the shocked faces of fellow passengers and staff at the hospital; my husband and brother-in-law splattered with blood and mud. They came to me when I was at my most vulnerable. I don’t think they will ever go completely, but they are fading and are easier to cope with.Train crash survivor
If you have faced a traumatic experience, you may simply feel emotionally numb to begin with, and feelings of distress may not emerge straight away. But sooner or later, you are likely to develop emotional and physical reactions, and changes in behaviour, which may include some of the following:
Reliving aspects of the trauma
vivid flashbacks (feeling as if the trauma is happening all over again)
intrusive thoughts and images
nightmares
intense distress at real or symbolic reminders of the trauma.
Avoiding memories
keeping busy
avoiding situations that remind you of the trauma
repressing memories (being unable to remember aspects of the event)
feeling detached, cut off and emotionally numb
being unable to express affection
feeling there’s no point in planning for the future.
Being easily aroused
disturbed sleep
irritability and aggressive behaviour
lack of concentration
extreme alertness
panic response to anything to do with the trauma
being easily startled.
These responses are all quite normal. Many people find the symptoms will disappear in due course. It’s when they last for longer than a month, or when they are very extreme, that PTSD may be diagnosed. Sufferers may also have other symptoms, such as severe anxiety, a phobia or depression. They may develop a dissociative disorder (see Understanding dissociative disorders) and suicidal feelings. There’s no time limit on distress, and some survivors may not develop post-traumatic symptoms until many years after the event.
What causes PTSD?
PTSD was first described in relation to the veterans of the Vietnam War in the USA, but the problem has been around for a lot longer under various different names. During the First World War, large numbers of soldiers were said to be suffering from 'shell shock', 'soldier’s heart' or 'battle fatigue'. Rather than admit to the horror of war, and in order to explain the large numbers of men involved, the official line was that these were symptoms of an illness.
‘I still have nightmares. They can be triggered by something on television, or the smallest of things, like having the duvet caught round my face. The number of times is lessening, but when they do come I’m learning how to cope. I put the light on, I open the window and say “Yep, look, that was a dream”.’Train crash survivor
Since that time there have been a number of reports made on the effects of war, recording between 6 and 30 per cent of veterans suffering from PTSD.
There are important similarities between the psychological stresses associated with war and those that occur in response to major disasters or to personal trauma. Following the sinking of the Herald of Free Enterprise ferry at Zeebrugge, 90 per cent of the passengers and their relatives who were seen for psychological assessment were found to be suffering from PTSD, either alone or in combination with other problems, such as alcohol misuse.
This highlights the fact that people who have not been directly involved in a trauma of this kind may still experience levels of distress as high as those who were. Civilian survivors of war and refugees also develop PTSD, for example. So do people who have lost relatives and friends as a result of some disaster, as well as rescue workers who tried to save them. After the King’s Cross underground station fire in 1987, mental health professionals drew up a list of 670 people who were potentially at risk from the psychological effects of the experience. Of that number, only 100 had been involved directly; the others came from the emergency services, railway officials and the families of victims and survivors.

Two years after the Lockerbie air disaster, police, firemen and ambulance workers were still traumatised by what they had witnessed.
Personal trauma, violent crime, sexual or physical assault, road traffic accidents or difficulties during childbirth can all produce PTSD. Adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse may be affected. Children who have themselves been abused, or who have witnessed something terrible, such as a murder, are also prone to the disorder.
Why do some people develop PTSD?
‘Every time I hear of any disaster, whether here or abroad, it brings back my own memories, and I can imagine how the families and victims are feeling. My own experience has taught me that you can’t change what happened, but that time does make it easier to cope. The memories don’t go, but they do fade.’
It’s reckoned that about 1.5–3.5 per cent of the general population is likely to be affected by PTSD at some point. Anyone can develop PTSD following experiences such as those mentioned above, but not everyone does so. Nor does everyone develop it to the same degree. There are a number of possible explanations for this.
Fearing for your life
E
vents involving loss of life, or where people have been faced by the prospect of dying, may lead to more long-lasting stress responses. A study of Falklands War veterans found that exposure to combat was the most significant factor in predicting who would develop PTSD.
Harmful intentions
Man-made disasters, particularly those involving deliberate acts of violence or terrorism, seem to cause longer-lasting and more painful emotional consequences than natural disasters. The crucial factor may be that it destroys people’s trust in others, particularly when it involves someone they depended on.
Conscious memories
People who remain conscious through the experience may be more vulnerable to PTSD because of the horrific memories etched on the mind.
Personal circumstances
Your personal history can make you more prone to PTSD. If a traumatic event triggers memories of an earlier distressing experience, the impact is effectively doubled in intensity. Similarly, if you are already going through emotional problems, you are also much more vulnerable. Your temperament may also have a lot to do with it.
Guilt feelings
Survivors often feel extremely guilty, as though they were responsible for the event, or could have done more to save themselves or others. One study showed that those who blamed themselves in some way for the outcome of the disaster were more at risk of severe and long-term distress.
What’s the best way to deal with a traumatic event?
In the aftermath, people often feel numb, dazed and disorientated. Talking about what has happened to them may well be the last thing they want to do. Many survivors have said that what they found most useful, to begin with, was practical advice, information and support with day-to-day tasks.
Expressing your feelings, by talking, may be the best way of coming to terms with the experience. But there are differing views about whether, or not, counselling or some form of psychological de-briefing immediately after the event can prevent serious problems developing later (see NICE recommendations below). Everyone will have their own unique responses, and will need to proceed at their own pace. Survivors may turn to friends, relatives and colleagues when they decide they do want to talk about what they’ve been through. What’s important is that there should be an opportunity to talk to someone about their distress, when they’re ready to do so. Many of those who do develop PTSD are able to come to terms with the traumatic experience, in this way, within a matter of months.
Stress responses that are bottled up over months or years become deeply ingrained and may cause serious problems. Sometimes, people turn to alcohol or drugs in an attempt to blot out painful feelings and memories. Individuals may remain in a state of extreme tension long after the trauma has passed. They may find themselves avoiding situations, in case they remind them of their trauma, so that life becomes increasingly restricted. In trying to avoid the problem, they are also, in effect, avoiding getting appropriate help. There are various organisations that can provide information about counsellors experienced in treating PTSD. (For more information, see Useful organisations.)
It can be very helpful for people to share their experiences with others who have been through something similar. This can be an extremely important step in moving away from isolation, from the role of victim and passive recipient of professional help, towards regaining control of their lives. There are organisations and helplines that specialise in particular groups of people, for example, soldiers who have seen combat, victims of violent crime or sexual assault, and people who have been tortured or who are refugees. You may find it especially useful to contact an organisation geared to your particular experience (see Useful organisations).
What sort of help is available for PTSD?
If you have been suffering from distressing symptoms for months after a traumatic event, you should see your GP, who can refer you for specialist help. There are clinics that focus on PTSD and there are national referral centres. Your GP may also be able to refer you to a local practitioner (a psychologist, psychotherapist or psychiatrist) who has been trained in treating PTSD.
Treatments for PTSD are still being evaluated, but experts agree that for anyone who is still suffering months after the event, an effective approach may be a series of lengthy sessions with a psychologist or other therapist. (See the NICE guidelines below)
Different types of trauma have different types of impact. Survivors of long-term child abuse or prolonged torture may have similar symptoms to people who have survived a traumatic event (single incident trauma), but they may need much more long-term, intensive help and are often diagnosed with ‘complex PTSD’. Specialist programmes have been set up to provide the appropriate therapy for people who were abused as children, victims of political violence, witnesses of murder or those involved in life-threatening situations (see Useful organisations). They may provide very structured treatment plans to clients using a combination of therapies.
At the time of printing, there has only been evidence that EMDR (see below), some forms of cognitive behavioural therapy and antidepressants are effective as treatments. Their impact and usefulness will be different for each person. At the moment, no other forms of psychotherapy or counselling have been proved to be helpful in treating PTSD.
Cognitive behavioural therapy
CBT is based on changing the way we view things: trying to adapt negative ways of thinking into more positive ones. If someone has been through a traumatic experience, they may expect the negative feelings that this evokes to continue, or certain triggers in life may be bringing up old unwanted feelings. CBT helps people to recognise these expectations, and the often automatic negative thought patterns associated with them, and to try and find a more useful way of reacting and behaving.
Trauma-focused CBT has been specially developed to help people with trauma, and includes help to overcome avoidance behaviours and the symptoms of fl ashbacks, for example. Therapists delivering this treatment will need to have special training to practise.
Behavioural therapy
This involves going though the trauma, repeatedly, with a psychologist or therapist, so that people re-experience the emotions they felt at the time. It’s important to go through the details of the trauma many times until they’ve dealt with the feelings and feel comfortable and no longer anxious. Some people may not be able to remember the details of the trauma because they were unconscious, or because they have repressed aspects of the experience. They will be encouraged to focus on their fears about the event and any aspects they do remember. Sometimes sessions are recorded on tape, to be listened to later at home. Research suggests that this kind of self-directed remembering can lead to a significant reduction in symptoms.
Behavioural therapy can also help with the problem of avoidance by encouraging people to confront their fears. For example, if you have been avoiding driving since a car crash, the therapist would help you to overcome this, through a step-by-step programme.
Cognitive therapy
Many survivors develop irrational feelings and beliefs as a result of their trauma. Someone who has been raped may start to believe that all men are rapists, for example, or may feel extremely guilty and blame herself. Cognitive therapy involves challenging self-damaging thoughts and beliefs about the event and encourages everyone to replace destructive ideas with a more realistic outlook.
Eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing (EMDR)
This treatment has been around for about 10 years, and is based on behavioural techniques, in which the patient makes rhythmic eye movements while imagining the traumatic event. The eye movements are designed to stimulate the information-processing system in the brain, and the aim of the treatment is to help along the processing of the traumatic events, and speed up readjustment and recovery.
Medication
Many people with PTSD are also extremely depressed. Taking antidepressants may help relieve some of the symptoms and help people to get the best from the psychological treatments. Since antidepressants can be addictive, they should be used with caution and with full knowledge of the possible side effects they may create (see Mind’s booklet Making sense of antidepressants).
NICE recommendations
The National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence (NICE) recommends that psychological treatment for PTSD should not start until four weeks after the trauma; however, support and information can be made available earlier than this, together with ‘watchful waiting’ to monitor any ‘natural’ recovery. Once PTSD is diagnosed, only psychological treatments that are designed for PTSD (EMDR and CBT are recommended) should be used and should be offered on a regular and continuous basis for 8-12 weeks by the same therapist. More sessions may be needed in certain circumstances (see the NICE website for more details). The person with PTSD should be given all the information about the treatments available to make an informed decision. Medication should not be offered as routine first-line treatment for adults with PTSD, but may be suitable if the person also has depression. For children and young people with PTSD, families should be involved with their treatment. The impact of the traumatic event on all family members should be assessed and appropriate support provided.
What should friends or relatives do?
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As the shock wore off, I felt under more and more pressure to get on with my life and to behave as though nothing had happened. As a consequence, I became less and less able to do this... It was a great strain trying to balance the need to talk about what had happened, and the consequences, and giving others as little excuse as possible to come out with phrases such as, “Life goes on” and,

“You’ve got to pull yourself together”.’
Survivors may need to be given permission to express their feelings about what they’ve been through. Relatives and friends can help by:

encouraging them to talk about it allowing them to be upset (without necessarily trying to console them), getting them to talk to other survivors, helping them to contact organisations that offer specialist support not letting them get into a pattern of avoiding situations that remind them of the trauma.